Maybe nobody on this forum knows the answer, or has not (won’t have?) the time to inspect all the available themes to look for what you’re looking for.
Humbly suggesting that you get a look into the themes and get back here to tell us what you’ve found.
Mirroring Nicolas’ sentiment, I doubt anyone knows that much about the themes. Not only are there many, but they are changing all the time.
But the good news is, themes are super easy to modify, the theme authors will often provide guidance and answer questions, and removing external requests from themes is a time-honored tradition. So just pick a theme you like and rip it out!
As for the “third-party” accesses, they actually happen only to my other github repos and to Netlify-served images via cloudfront (which I am white-listing in the CSP headers).
You can take this theme as a base and add more stuff to it, prettify it, etc.